What to do..

I'm not sure this is really venting. I believe I may be like my brother-in-law that I just need to write it out so I can feel better. Many may know that Cade has really struggled with 3rd grade. Well, he has just struggled with school for awhile, especially in math. I believe he got lost in his early years at the Spanish immersion school and didn't get the basics down before he got thrown into the harder stuff. This year has been especially hard on both of us. I fight with him every night with homework. Sometimes we are doing homework for more than 3 hours. His science and reading are fine it's mostly just math. We have met with his teacher a number of times to come up with ways to help him. Thankfully he has a great teacher that sincerely wants to help us. Well, yesterday he brought home a note from his teacher and principle stating that Cade isn't progressing enough to move onto the 4th grade. My heart just sank! I lost it, I just had to cry! It all came tumbling down behind closed doors. I knew that if Cheeto saw that I was that upset about it he would think I was crazy and say it's not the end of the world. But the hours I have sat working with him and he still may have to held back. I know a little embarrassment now is better than playing a game of catch up for the rest of his life. I'm embarrassed to because I feel like this reflects what I am as a mother. I feel like I failed him! I failed! I also know that he has to actually do the work and if doesn't understand it he doesn't understand it. Why is it that i couldn't help him? Why doesn't he want to work harder? Cheeto and I aren't lazy people. We both work hard and try to distill that in our children, especially in todays society where everyone wants everything just handed to them. It's just not enough! What I do is not enough! I failed! I say I because Cheeto is at work and isn't usually the one doing the homework routine. I hate the fighting with him every afternoon. I hate that homework takes so long that he has no time to just be a kid and play. It breaks my heart that Kelson just breezes through his and Cade is left working for hours. It's not all laziness. He has this blank look and honestly, just doesn't "get it." We are at a loss and finally we are to the point where we may have to accept that he will repeat the 3rd grade. He doesn't know any of this yet. He is going to fight us on this one for sure. Another fight...great! We are going to meet with his teacher again this week. I pray there is still hope.